Before I got to where I am now in life, I had to claw myself out of “rock bottom” and through the gates of homelessness, into a new world. This new place was an alien world from what I was used. Seven years of my life were spent hiding from everything and everyone in the world. Why? Because I was freaked out by what I saw. As an introvert, the real world was scary and I never had the desire to step into being a part of it. I used every excuse I could think of not to be a part of it, and if I had to, it sucked.
Naturally, a lack of effort and being a sort of hermit, I would end up with nothing. No possessions, no money, no job, no home, and no passion for life. I even had zero skills. I couldn’t hammer a nail, I couldn’t drive because my license was revoked because I didn’t care to pay my fines, and there was no money to even try. The only thing I had going for me was the hidden use of my mind which I was unaware of. Eventually, I got fed up with being sick, broke, and homeless and wanted to change my life. That little spark of light was enough to engulf my existence with flames of fury that were burning inside, ready for war. Ready to change the game and become something more than a rock bottom dweller.
Really, I was pathetic. I let my insecurities and introversion take me into a deep dark world of laziness and depression. I was literally left with nothing until I got a second chance. I remember being embarrassed to talk to women, to go out in public, to see old friends from high school, and to even attempt to work. My Aunt gave me a place to stay for my second chance and when I found a job, she had to drive me. I was digging ditches and carrying paving blocks all day from trucks to patios, uphill, downhill, and all sorts of other back breaking work. One thing I never lost was the ability to get the job done. Even though I hated “doing”, I could work for hours and hours with the best of the best and never give up.
Making seven bucks an hour cash to do landscape work started it all. Now, when I see people bitch and moan over the poor hand they seem to have been dealt, I understand what they’re going through. I know what it’s like to be dead broke and not know if you’ll make the car insurance bill or rent this month. The embarrassment I felt drove me to not being happy with my situation and, some of the people I met along the way drilled into me that it was nobody’s fault but my own, and I had to do the work to get out of it.
Climbing out of rock bottom is never easy. I cried so many nights from the pain it caused. The emotional turmoil, the mental hurricanes blowing at gale force speed throughout my broken mind, and the physical pain that was manifested from all the inner anger and depression. Life never seemed to be something I enjoyed. The cliff always seemed to be the best place to jump and end it all and wake up in another world at another time, hopefully in a clearer and more abundant pasture.
These are life experiences so many people go through in today’s world. We’re tackled and chained by our ego and paralyzed by fear. But, it doesn’t have to be like this and the experiences I’ve been through, as I now understand, where dealt with so I can walk out with my head held high and to help other people stuck in the grips of depression, sadness, boredom, loneliness, and lack of passion.
Climbing out of rock bottom takes hard work. So hard that when I was bursting through mountains of improvement I would cry myself to sleep, cry in the shower, cry while driving home, and cry at the thought that maybe I wasn’t good enough or meant to be survivor or fighter. It took tremendous amount of self-esteem, self-confidence, long nights, and excruciating pains to get out of that hole. The effects, still felt to this day.
Even though it’s hard work, you can do it. When someone gets to a breaking point like what I went through, a new person emerges after the battle of thoughts and then, the work begins. Everyone reaches a point where the situation of their life needs to change and they desperately want that change. It’s here that you need to get your “ducks in a row” and take action, because nobody else is going to do it. It’s in your hands.
Here are a few ways to climb out of rock bottom and crush life..
1. Recognize the problem
So, my problem was extremely deep and something I may never get into. Although I was locked in my own little world and afraid to face reality, there was more than meets the eyes. One day, I woke up under a bridge for the last time because I finally recognized the problem. I saw what was happening and even though I knew for a long time, I didn’t want to accept it’s truth. Find out what is causing you to be faced with a rock bottom situation or just a situation you no longer want to deal with, like being 40 pounds overweight or a failing businessman. See it as a problem. Feel it as a problem and then..
2. Recognize the pain
Pain is hard. Emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual pain can cripple you and sometimes it leaves people with feelings of no other choice but to exit reality. Recognize what pain is created from the problem you’re experiencing and then make it your mission to do whatever needs to be done to overcome that pain and become bigger than those problems. Once you realize what is causing you pain, in whatever form, you can begin to take daily steps to climb above it. For example, when I found myself homeless under a bridge the pain of being a complete loser became unbearable. Seeing my family members and old friends living happy and abundant lives destroyed my heart. It got to the point where I made a vital decision to try another day and walk into town. Knowing I was at rock bottom hurt me so bad that I knew it had no room to be that way in my life. I recognized the problem, I recognized the pain and I recognized the need to
3. Make a Plan
I had no clue what I was going to do. My “network” was empty. My pockets had holes in them. My clothes worn out and my body broken. But I knew there had to be something more for me in my life and I knew the pain of my problems was too great to ignore. So I made the plan to try another day. That was it. My plan was to survive this day and then when tomorrow came, to survive that day. As time went on and things started happening, my plans became greater and greater and now I’m light-years away from where I started. See where you are right now and what problem you’re facing. Feel the pain and accept it as real and that work needs to be done to get through it and eliminate the pain. Then, get some paper and write out a plan. In my case, there was nothing to write except “Secure shelter, food and water”. Making a plan doesn’t need to be extensive. It can be as simple as what I wrote or another example, “Apply for at least one job today”.
Everybody has a different situation, different pain, and their plans will all reflect this difference. Use this three step process to begin the journey of climbing out of your “Rock Bottom”. In the near future I’ll be releasing more posts about overcoming life struggles and how to use the problems, pains, and plans to improve your situation and live the way of your true authentic self.